Sibling love changes lives

Parent-teacher conferences were last week.

Yeah, I know.

I went to my daughter’s conference first.   Meg’s grades were good, although in the classroom, gym, and art she scored and “n” for “needs improvement” on demonstrating responsible behavior.  She’s like her mom– loves to talk and socialize! Meg is a very good reader (I’m already finding her hiding with books, deeply engrossed), a deep thinker, and a good math student.  Meg notices things that other kids in her reading skills group don’t notice yet.  She is a delight, her teacher said.  Yes!

Yet, that’s not what made me the proud mama.

Meg has struck up a friendship with “Floyd,” who is on the spectrum.  I know he’s on the spectrum  from observing him in the classroom while carrying out my room-parent duties.

Meg and Floyd have things in common. Rather than sit in a group with the other kids, they sit on their own.  Their desks are separate, but near one another.  Meg actually requested to be separated from the other kids– on her own– at the beginning of the school year, because she couldn’t control her talking in a group.  Wow!  My experience with autism tells me that Floyd benefits from having his own desk, too.

Meg and Floyd do “stations” together sometimes, and play together at inside recess. Meg’s teacher said that she looked up to see Meg and Floyd playing with alphabet letters, making them talk to one another.  She commented that Floyd has a friend, and we both got teary.  She went on to say that Meg doesn’t see the behaviors, doesn’t “fight back,” isn’t offended.   I commented that I think it’s because of having two older brothers with autism, and she agreed.

My family life can be hectic and crazy and stressful.  However, through it all,  my daughter is growing into an amazing person.

She doesn’t see the differences, she sees Floyd, her friend.

Floyd has a friend.

That gives me hope.

9 responses to this post.

  1. 🙂 trying not to tear up over here after reading this happy story. that is wonderful!


  2. That is SO GREAT! Meg reminds me of my ‘Other One’ who grew into an amazing, sensitive, independent thinker. Hooray for siblings!


  3. I can’t tell you how wonderful this is to hear! It just proves the point that inclusion is a positive thing for everyone. 🙂


  4. Julie– don’t hold back the tears, just let it all out :-). I held back the tears at the conference, then let them flow later, LOL.

    Bbsmum– I’m excited to read about your “Other One.” I’m looking forward to experiencing Meg’s becoming an amazing, sensitive, independent thinking young woman.

    Trish– Yes, inclusion can be positive, as long as it is appropriate! Amen, sister!


  5. Posted by Janet on February 16, 2011 at 6:44 pm

    Love it!

    My girls (12 & 10) don’t notice the differences in other kids on the spectrum. But when it comes to their brother (8) — he, for the most part can do nothing right. I’m always getting “why doesn’t Luke …, so-n-so (who is 13) does”


  6. Posted by Bobbi on February 27, 2011 at 10:57 pm

    Who knew we could find so much understanding almost in our own backyard!? You and Meg gave us such gifts and you don’t even know it. Her friendship, the party invitation (his first – he and I were both nervous wrecks!) and this post. I cried the ugly cry when I read this! 🙂 I’m so glad you shared it. It gives ME hope!

    -“Floyd’s” Mom


    • Thanks for replying, Bobbi. I got teary when I read your reply! It was great seeing “Floyd” yesterday at Meg’s party. I was so glad that he came, and so was Meg. Meg played with the Ariel dolls in the tub last night!


  7. Posted by Dar on February 28, 2011 at 7:34 pm

    Ok when you guys do this please preface this with get a tissue. I am so happy for “Floyd” and Meg sounds like a wonderful young lady. Keep up the good work!

    “Floyds” Aunt


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